Gentleness is listed in the New Testament as a fruit of the Spirit. In other words, you will know the Holy Spirit is active when you sense or experience gentleness.
Now, by its very nature, gentleness is easy to miss. We are not always aware that a person is treating us gently. I promise you, though, that we never miss when it’s absent. We always know when we’re being treated harshly. An overbearing or pushy person is hard to miss.
Why are we so focused on the negative treatment? Why are our minds so drawn to the loud hurtful voices? It’s because they demand our attention while gentleness sits quietly waiting to be noticed.
Consider this, when you are interacting with someone who is not being harsh, pay attention to how they are being considerate and gentle with you, your feelings, and your opinions.
Don’t let their kindness go unnoticed or unappreciated. Allow the Holy Spirit to speak and respond to others in a gentle way, but don’t be surprised if no one notices.
“God has chosen you and made you his holy people. He loves you. So you should always clothe yourselves with mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.” Colossians 3:12 NCV